* So I was cruising the net looking for icons yesterday and came across this one.
* It made me realize just how deeply I believe in the school of hard knocks.
* And then it made me realize that…
* Some folks never learn. No matter how many knocks they take, no matter how often they crash and burn, they never ever learn.
Maybe I’m jaded. Maybe I just suck as a teacher. Maybe my advice isn’t as good as I think it is. But it seems to me that folks just don’t listen. So unless I’m giving a demo with Taylor or have been asked something directly, I don’t generally bother anymore to give advice or try to teach anyone anything. (And, let me tell you, you’d think that at a demo or presentation people would be there to learn and listen - and some are - but you’d be amazed at how many are not. Do not.)
I tend to shrug things off and say to myself… eh… let her crash and burn. She’ll learn. Because if they won’t listen, won’t hear you, won’t take and use your advice…
What else can you do?
Which brings us back to those who don’t learn even when they’ve crashed and burned.
What do you do?
Again with the jaded thing but I’m truly beginning to believe they’re the folks who are most happy at the bottom of a smoldering heap. Most content when life is falling apart around them and they’re the center of some drama or another - mostly created by themselves.
And so I’m becoming apathetic.
Unless I’m asked I just don’t give a shit.
And even when I’m asked…
When it comes to the drama kings and queens…
I just don’t give a shit.
Crash. Burn. Learn or don’t learn.
I just don’t care.
The sad thing is, this IS the actual state of mind of far too many women. I think submissives see a higher percetage of this type of girl. I am not talking about those who are just not intelligent enough to figure shit out, but those who are just not programmed to handle peace and happiness.
They grew up coping in chaos or vying for attention that was only given when they behaved badly or did something stupid and the result is someone who doesn’t know how to cope when things go right.
For me, personally, once I am able to recognize one of these “crisis management” types, I get how they will behave, inspite of being offered advice that would make them better off. It still kinda sucks, but I am neither disappointed or surprised. And, when one of them gets it and changes their behavior for the better… I get an unexpected “yay” moment.
November 8th, 2007 at 8:12 amgee, not opinionated, are we?
November 8th, 2007 at 9:01 ami ‘usually’ do not go out of my way unless someone i care about is about to get hurt in one way or another.
i fully agree with you. usually, hubby and i just giggle about other’s stupidity like that.
not to one-up you, but another thing that crawls up my spine…. when someone DOES ask for your opinion/and-or/help and you give it to the best of your ability and they
(1) do not hear you and say something stupid like, i’m sorry, i wasn’t listening….
(2) completely ignore anything you suggest
- or the worst yet
(3) ARGUE WITH YOU ABOUT YOUR OWN OPINION!!!!!!! good god that is about the most ignorant thing!
someone is so at a loss, cannot figure out what to do, finally resigns themselves to ask another they feel might have a valuable direction to go, receive it … then … ARGUE!!
i just wanna bitch-slap them until their stupidity runs dry. but, that would take far too long for me, so, i rely on just giving their own stupid expression back to them and walk away, vowing never to do that again… with them anyhow…
see ya tomorrow!
ooxx
cindy
Amen sister! I am still pretty naive to the fact that if someone is expressing a particular problem in their life to me that they are actually asking for advice - especially when they ask me what i would do in the same situation. It’s not until I hear them tell 5 other people the same gripe word for word that I realize they only like to hear themselves talk about their problem - they aren’t looking for advice to make it any better. And yikes! if they did make it better, what on earth would they have to talk about?!
November 11th, 2007 at 8:39 pm