Happy New Year, everyone!
I was all set to not make any resolutions this year since they just leave me feeling crappy if I don’t meet them and all bound up and obligated if I do.
But yesterday we had a Day of Great Sex and I realized we don’t have nearly enough of those.
Why, you ask?
Well.
He is the boss and, as such, pretty much gets laid whenever he wants to.
That doesn’t necessarily make it Great Sex, however.
See, I’ve been going thru the whole perimenopause thing rather early. (That’s the first, earliest stages of menopause for those who don’t know) Night sweats. Crazy hormones. Periods a little out of whack and quite painful.
I’ve also been less sexual - probably due to the hormones. And even when I am horny as hell my snootch is rarely wet these days. Combine that with Taylor’s odd schedule and long hours and Great Sex is less frequent than it used to be.
So I’ve decided to have a resolution after all.
I’m going to do some research on supplements for the menopause thing and work, daily, on simply being more horny.
Diddle more often while he’s at work so I’m primed and thinking sexually when he gets home.
Buy a gallon of good lube so even decent and normal sex can turn into Great Sex. (It’s really quite hard to get fully into it, even when it feels good, when your body just won’t cooperate and create a buffer between that big thick dick and a dry puss)
Watch more porn. Read more erotica. Write some, maybe.
Dress more sexy and feel more pretty.
And give more blow jobs. Cuz… yanno… that almost always gets me quite wriggly. 
Cuz Great Sex Days make us both feel sooooooooo much better.
And while our d/s dynamic has little to do with sex I have to admit that Great Sex leaves me feeling much more likely a well used cunt which admittedly also makes me more eager to be pleasing in all ways.
So that’s my resolution.
Turn this year into The Year of Great Sex.
Damned if I”m gonna let a bunch of hormonal shit keep kicking my ass and fucking with my sex!
Not much of a blog, I know. Next time.
let’s see here.. i am wayyyyyyyy on the other side of perimenopause.. and am still producing lots and lots of lubricant ( yeah yeah i know lucky me!!)
Just a little suggestion.. try KY warming jelly …… as far as i am concerned nothing beats it… BUT Taylor may .. umm.. find that sex just got a whole lot “hotter”.. (cheeky grin)
morningstar (owned by Warren)
January 4th, 2008 at 3:28 pmHeh. We use that occasionally but I find KY to be too sticky most of the time. And the warming stuff? It gets a little weird during butt sex. LMAO.
January 4th, 2008 at 4:11 pmI love it for diddling, though. Yum. Warm fingers work wonders.
Take evening primrose oil as a supplement. It helps to counteract the hormones. I know it helped my severe PMS. I bet there are several natural supplements that would help w/perimenopausal symptoms, including lubrication.
January 4th, 2008 at 11:18 pmI also made it to the other side of menopause, but, I take premarin, (hormone replacement.) I know I should get off of it, but, until the doc stops giving it to me I will take it.
Funny thing, after my periods stopped and I went on premarin, I’m always hot to go and the sex is great…with or without kink.
Several friends of mine tell me that their sex has been better after menopause.
Something to look forward to, no periods, and all the sex you want.
January 6th, 2008 at 9:40 pmI’m tellin’ ya I’m actually looking forward to full menopause. Early menopause runs in my family and my mom started having the same symptoms I am at around the same age. Unfortunately she also had some issues and needed to have a hysterectomy in her early fifties and that is something I don’t want to deal with.
I’ve done some research on over the counter things like Estroblend and hormone creams and the like but i”m not very enthused about the results. Soy seems to be a good remedy but I can’t stomach the taste of soy milk.
It’s just sort of a sucky time all around, isn’t it? Gah.
January 7th, 2008 at 2:04 pmAnd nothing to be done about it but wait it out - difficult for a “get it done” type like me.
CarrieAnn,
I don’t know why but I think I remember you are in your thirties still…that is going to be a long perimenopause. I also started that very early and it lasted forever and almost drove me NUTS..and most around me..so I started HRT and every time I stop, the symptoms start again and it’s just not worth it. If you are in good health otherwise the risk is minimal..also no smoking..just like BC.
I agree with you about the warming KY…too much to handle sometimes in certain places…Astroglide does it for me…and the pharmacy seems to have more and more choices all the time..a sure sign the baby boomers are hitting menopause in full force! Fifty may be the new thirty but a dry vagina makes it a little difficult to keep the mind in the right place…and i know it’s physical not mental..i am just as horny mentally and when i screw up the pills for three days…it goes too dry for fun…so talk to your doctor and do the research…another thing about not feeling sexy is shitty sleep that the hot flashes bring….Sleep and slippery and you’ll be right back in the groove!!
Good luck and a wonderful year of great sex to you and Taylor!
nik
January 7th, 2008 at 5:11 pmOh gods. I know. I know. The night sweats make for a terrible night’s sleep. I wake up wet. My blankets are damp. Sheets clammy. And I stink! Not like B.O. just a… ugh… moist and not very fresh scent.
I’ve started taking ambien to help me fall asleep since I have a long, long history of insomnia and that often makes sleep more pleasurable but I can’t take it every day or I end up very groggy after about a week.
I’m in for a long ride. Bah. All I can do is hold on and make the best of it.
January 7th, 2008 at 5:15 pm